The Book of Love

Monday, April 26, 2010

I've been listening to Peter Gabriel lately. A lot. And there's a song of his which came to mind when I watched a lot of the videos on the Man's Guide to Love website. This is one of my favourite songs of all time, it's called "The Book of Love". This song was used in the film "Shall We Dance" - and it touched my heart so much because it's not a song about new, romantic love. It's not a song about attraction, or lust. It's a song about the journey. And the montage of images that play against this song in the film just speak volumes about a lifetime commitment and what it's like to still be in love with the person you chose to marry, years from the day you met.

How many of us can say that we're going to be able to share this same love with the same partner that we've loved for a lifetime? I truly hope that some day, that I will.

The Book of Love

The book of love is long and boring, no one can lift the damn thing
It's full of charts and facts and figures and instructions for dancing

But I, I love it when you read to me...and you, you can read me anything

The book of love has music in it, in fact that's where music comes from
Some of it is just transcendental, some of it is just really dumb

But I, I love it when you sing to me...and you, you can sing me anything

The book of love is long and boring, and written very long ago
It's full of flowers and heart-shaped boxes, and things we're all too young to know

But I, I love it when you give me things
And you, you ought to give me wedding rings 

You ought to give me wedding rings

- Peter Gabriel

The Man's Guide to Love

All over the country, we’re asking men:
“If you had one piece of advice that you’d give
another man about love, what would it be?”
These are their answers. 

So I stumbled across this website the other day - The Man's Guide to Love.

Now honestly - I'll admit that I was skeptical. Men giving men advice on relationships? Isn't that a woman's job? *ducks objects thrown at her from all directions* But when I made my way through some of the videos on the website, I realised that there were so many guys out there who were passionate about fulfillment, who were committed to making relationships work.

Some of the advice I liked was:

“There’s no such thing as a perfect relationship. There will always be a honeymoon phase.”
“Stay the course. It just gets better, and better, and better.”  
“Compromise. Lots and lots of compromise.” 
“These days, the dudes are constantly texting the girls. That’s not attractive.”
"Work it out. Because it can be worked out." 

These guys are definitely worth following. Check them out on:
So I asked Stephen quickly about what advice he'd give, he said simply:

"Be there. For anything and everything. Don't hold back."

And that's why I love him, your honour. :)

We're back!

Tuesday, April 20, 2010

We're back! Japan was phenomenal - if you haven't had the chance to get there - Jetstar have a 2 for 1 airfare deal happening at the moment - it's definitely worth the trip. Anyone that thinks that Japan would be one of the least romantic destinations in the world just hasn't been there! We spent hours walking through parks, with cherry blossoms falling all around us. We explored the backstreets of Gion together, and marvelled at Bamboo forests, hiked up mountains and breathed in the clear Sagano air. We clinked glasses 52 storeys up at the Park Hyatt in Shinjuku, and bought matching mouse-ears at Disneyland. We discovered beautiful restaurants in the back streets of each city and experienced new tastes, sounds and languages.

Don't underestimate its magic - experience it for yourself.