Relationship Resolutions

Friday, January 1, 2010

Happy new year! It's that time of year again, after we pick ourselves up from our hangovers (possibly resolving never to drink again), or cringe at ourselves in the mirror and swear that THIS year will be the year that we're going to stick out that gym membership no matter what the cost. Perhaps some of us are recovering from relationships, promising to ourselves to never get our hearts broken again. Perhaps we are in new or even languishing relationships. Either way - we always seem to forget about matters of the heart when we're making those infamous resolutions for the year.
“...medicine, law, business, engineering - these are noble pursuits and necessary to sustain life. But poetry, beauty, romance, love - these are what we stay alive for.”
- Robin Williams

If love is so important to us, it amazes me that we don't cherish it more. But we put it on the backburner claiming that we'll "get around" to nourishing it. Somehow other things in our lives become more of a priority - our jobs, our employers, our family - meanwhile the love we have with our partners wilts with neglect. We stop respecting it. We stop honouring it. We stop thinking about the other person and start thinking more about ourselves.

So without further ado - here some relationship resolutions we all might want to consider for 2010!


Relationship Resolutions

1. Maintain that Intimacy. After my post the other night - you might have noticed that touch is a key part of a relationship for me. Sometimes we just forget to do it. Sometimes it's just not in our nature. But let not our everyday lives put physical intimacy on the backburner. Remember - you can say a thousand things with just one touch - and not to mention put those inner-monologues to rest.

2. Forgive. No matter if it was an overspending issue, or not putting the rubbish out. There are just some things that you have to forgive - and while you're at it - forget. That's not to say that some relationships don't have bigger problems, and I'm not saying that every offense is forgiveable - far from it. But some things you just have to...let go of.

3.  Say "I Love You". Don't think you're being cool like Swayze in Ghost by murmering "Ditto". If you love them - tell them. And tell them every day. Don't hang up the phone without saying it. End every text message and every email with it. Think it's getting boring? Insert another word or three for "Love". I adore you. I can't live without you. I appreciate you. I see you.  Find different ways of delivering the message - you don't have to write a love poem every week - there are other simple ways. Tracing a heart in the shower screen. Writing in whiteboard marker on the fridge. Type it on the computer screen. Arranging things on the kitchen bench - you get my drift!

4.  Take Chances. Don't you get bored doing the same thing week in and week out? Complaining that the magic has left your relationship? It hasn't. Your relationship abandoned it first. Magic doesn't happen on its own - YOU make it - day in and day out. It's your choice to be the most amazing, loving, wonderful, creative, spontaneous partner ever. Go on some really well thought out dates, take some long drives - go and explore something you've never explored before. Go and make memories - beautiful, incredible, legendary memories. (And of course - watch this space in 2010 for help on how to create said memories...)

That's about it for me - stay tuned for Project Romance's first official year. I look forward to helping you make incredible magic in your relationships in 2010. Don't forget - if you have any suggestions (especially in the Brisbane/S.E QLD area) - please comment - and I'd be delighted to pass on your recommendation or check it out on your behalf.

Stay safe!


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